Romance often happens a lot at the beginning of a relationship, but as time passes, romance often dies. Couples must remember that romance is not the most important characteristic of a good marriage. Yes, it is definitely important, but there are things that are more important.

I have learned that the biggest factor in a marriage is the couple’s attitudes towards each other. Here is one simple principle that is required for a great marriage. If the couple agrees, and practices this principle, they are in store for a great relationship.

This one simple principle is this: treat the other person how you would like to be treated and always put their feelings first. This simple principle is not easy to follow, but is very rewarding if a couple learns how to do it. Imagine your relationship if your spouse always put your feelings first; always. How would that make you feel? And then imagine how he would feel if this was a common practice for you to put his feelings first? Can you imagine how that can transform your relationship?

By each partner focuses on the other partner’s feelings and needs, each partner takes the focus off of themselves. They rely on each other for these things and they know that, no matter what, their partner has their back.

You can transform your marriage by doing this. Talk to your spouse about it, but even if he doesn’t agree, try doing it yourself. It might slowly transform him and make him want to do the same thing.